Poison and Fruit Salad

Doesn't it sound quizzical when someone tells us – ‘don’t show your anger out when you are really angry and behave like you are angry when you really are not?’

We feel like screaming ‘how is this possible. After all emotions are emotions. When we are sad, we cry. When we are happy, we rejoice. In the same wave length, when we are angry, we boil out. So what’s wrong showing out our anger when we are really angry?’ If this is your response, feel happy you have a normal psychology. 

Let us think out of the box. Imagine how our life will be if we control our anger when we are really angry. Don’t you think our life will be a wonderful place to live in without any rifts and rafts?

The better situation is - to behave like we are angry when we really are not since it makes us act in a well thought about manner.

This is a classic example for mind control.

Let's move one step forward

Next time when you are angry, be conscious about being angry. Say to your self - ‘I am angry’. There are two benefits attached to doing this.

Benefit 1 - The moment you realize you are angry, the pace with which your anger rose will slow down. Your anger subsides, toning down the heat caused

Benefit 2 – You get time to think if you really had to become angry during the particular situation. You will think twice before getting angry the next time when a similar situation arises.

This is controlling human mind in the simplest form.

If we allow anger to dominate our life, we remain under the control of the same all throughout our life. It becomes our character and we get defined by the emotion. It is the same with all other emotions too. This is why we say ‘what consumes our mind controls our life’.

The real culprit is…… not our mind

It is we who allow our mind to rewind and review our past again and again. When we focus in diverting our mind to the present, it adheres to our commands in an implicit manner. It is like deciding to see the TV Channel that plays melancholic music all the time. This will make us feel sad bringing out tears all the time. On the contrary, when we decide to come out of the melancholic music channel to feel joyous about a current situation, we need to at least take the minimum effort of changing the channel using the remote control.

Our mind works exactly in the same manner. We have the remote control to switch our mind over from one state to another. Like the television set, when we exert control over our mind, it switches over without resistance. Even the initial resistance can be successfully managed with persistent insistence. 

Rewinding… Ruminating… Reviewing… leads to Rusting

We cannot consume poison and expect it to taste like a Fruit Salad. This is purely physical.

When we ruminate about something that has happened in the past, we continue to chew the cud for the rest of our life. This is purely mental.

We have two choices. We can continue to ruminate throughout our life remaining under the control of our mind. We can learn techniques to overcome the distress or pain we experienced in the past, bringing the mind under our control.

Think deeply and accept honestly - How many times have you felt “I am not feeling comfortable. Let me go for a walk and feel fresh”. Or ‘I don’t want to think about that anymore. Let me come out of it’. This means your inner self wants something that is opposed to what you are experiencing. It is you who refuse to get out of the situation and remain chained to the same.

Shed the heavy weight

Beware, ‘What consumes your mind controls your life’. If you decide what must consume your mind, you are deciding what must control your life. If you fail to filter what enters into your mind, you are handing over your life to the unseen monster entering the same. Remember, you cannot lead a positive life carrying all the negative shit in your mind.

Throw the unwanted bulk away from your mind. Keep it light. Allow what is required for the current life to enter through your mind’s gate. Filter everything else out. Be assertive in deciding what is wanted and unwanted. Stand strong by your decision. Any wavering in this front will once again harm the peaceful functioning of your mind.  

It’s easy. Control your MIND. Control your LIFE.