How
many times in life have we done things that we despise to do and resented
later?
How
many times have we silenced ourselves just listening to people expressing a
totally opposed opinion from that of ours?
How
many times have we forced ourselves to remain in an environment that made us feel we were standing on thorns?
How
many times have we felt inferior due to the feeling that everyone around us looked better than us?
How
many times have we restricted ourselves from expressing our opinions as raw as we felt for the fear of being looked down upon as an eccentric?
How
many times have we felt like a fish out of water imagining that people around us
are more knowledgeable than us?
If
we have done some or all of the above in the past, let the same get buried there.
We did it due to the basic human need to be liked and appreciated by others. We
have, throughout our life shuttled between being our self and living to satisfy
others. Whenever the latter weighed over the former, we lost our authenticity
somewhere midway. Thriving when we are in the company of others and trying to
be independent at the same time make us lose our balance. To avoid becoming an
outcast, we kept rushing towards rugged cliffs as one in the herd.
We age through stages
Life
has never remained constant from the time we were born. We have evolved involuntarily
through the many happenings in life to reach the destination we are in today. We have
not traveled this distance empty handed but carried loads of lessons. Every
stage of life has taught us lessons that differ in intensity and nature.
Painful happenings in life have succeeded in teaching us lessons in a more
emphatic manner than the ones in the light weight category. While learning lessons
from the hardships of others is prudence, some of us make it a point to learn
it through the hard way personally experiencing the same.
We
age through every stage of life. No stage has ever failed to pamper us or throw
problems on us that are appropriate for the stage. The older we get, the more
do we realize the importance of privacy. We prefer to cultivate our own circle
of people carefully selecting them applying many filters. We open up
confidently without bothering about the opinion of others much opposed to what we
did during the earlier stages of life. Ageing gives us the maturity not to
change our ‘self’ just for others to like us. Ageing gives us the confidence to
be our ‘self’ since we have learnt that the right people will love us in the
right way when we remain so.
Every opinion now
accepted was once considered eccentric
Do
not fear to be yourself. Being who we are and saying what we feel demands
courage. You were born to be you. You were created to live your life not others’.
Your image is what you decide to be the one and not what others understand it
to be. Do not compare yourself with others. Yes. It is a fact that you are not
as good as they are and they have strengths that you do not possess. Another astonishing
fact is that they are not as good as you are and they lack strengths that you
possess. So, in which way are you inferior or others superior? Voice out what
you feel confidently even if people call you an eccentric. Every opinion now accepted
as a brilliant one was termed eccentric earlier.
You
are a unique creation. No one else in this world has all that you have. It is
up to you to admire or loathe your image when you stand in front of the mirror.
Love your image that you see in the mirror because that is basically who you
are. What you see in yourself must make or break you rather than what others fail
to see in you. What holds us back many a times is not actually our incapability
but the thought that we are incapable. Doubting our worth helps us to get into
the grave quicker than we deserve.
Evolve or dissolve
Look
around you. Everything in this Universe is bound to change. Is there anything
that has not changed and remained constant since your childhood? We are being
alive just to evolve as the person we actually have to be. Change is unbearably
painful most of the times. However, change is the key for us to evolve. Life continuously
offers us opportunities to learn and evolve. The tougher the life situations, the
stronger we become to handle the same. We evolve.
If
you believe that you can crawl then the only thing that you will be good at all
through your life is crawling. When you refuse to be the person you were
earlier and decide to progress, you are communicating to your future that you
are ready. Change may appear scary but to stagnate will make us stink. Just
because people call us an ugly human being does not really make us one. We can
still be a cute looking lovable monkey that creates a cheerful environment all around
if we consider ourselves one.
Remember,
all species that have survived testing times were not intelligent, strong or beautiful.
Only those species that responded to change in a positive manner survived the
storms of time. Outgrow that which does not nourish you anymore. Outreach to grab all that
adds value to you. Keep growing. Continue to evolve. You have only two choices
in life – Evolve or dissolve.
